Baffled and Blonde

Prom A Nom Nom

Thu, 23 May 2013 18:54:26 -0400

A few weeks ago, I went to talldarkhandsome’s junior prom - like most big schools, their junior prom is just as fancy as their senior prom… so I had to go all out. I borrowed a dress from a friend (I actually hunted down a ton of dresses and I’m still in the process of returning them to all their owners) and we looked fantastic! My dress (well, the one I borrowed) was long (really really really long since I’m so short and I couldn’t alter a borrowed dress) and COVERED in silver sequins! It had a cutout in the back (I can’t do fully open backs, due to my huge boobs and need for a bra) and was super pretty and sexy and awesome! He wore a white jacket with black pants and a black vest and a black bowtie (think Brad Pitt’s character in Inglorious Bastards). We looked phenomenal together - we got complemented all night, even though nobody knew me there! Speaking of which…… it was kind of funny seeing talldarkhandsome in his school environment.. I mean, I know a bunch of his friends so pre-prom was fine, but it was entertaining to see him interact with everyone else at his school. For example, all these girls kept flirting with him and he’d just be like “aaaaannddddd here’s my girlfriend!” and then they’d hardcore judge me and we’d laugh about it. His ex was there, and she gave me the dirtiest look (even though she was there with her boyfriend, who’s close friends with talldarkhandsome) and I just smiled and said hi. And apparently this other girl threatened to go off at me and tell me to back off… but it never happened.

After prom we went back to talldarkhandsome’s place and watched movies. I ended up falling asleep pretty quickly - I was exhausted - but it was still an amazing night!

I have to start thinking about my prom now… lol

Bye for now!

Baffled and Blonde~

as a fellow teenage giel what do you think a 5'4 girl should weight and don't say any of the everyone is beautiful bs please give a number i am trying to determine my goal weight and i want imput

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:26:55 -0400

Well, I actually am a firm believer in the whole “everyone is beautiful” thing, unless your weight is a health hazard. That being said… there’s no “right” answer to your question! I weigh a healthy 105-110 (I don’t own a scale, I’m not sure how much exactly) and I’m 5’2.” I’d say a 5’4” girl might weigh somewhere around or above 115, give or take. It depends on your body type. But if you want honest advice, I’d say it’s definitely not about how much you weigh, but how healthy you are and how healthy you feel. I’ve never owned a scale, and I’ve had my bunch of weight-related insecurities, but I’ve ALWAYS felt my best when eating healthily and exercising on a semi-regular basis. So in my opinion, I’d focus less on your goal weight and more on how healthy you feel. Sorry if that’s not the answer you’re looking for, but believe me… it’s definitely something worth considering!

Baffled and Blonde~

is it bad to talk to a guy who you haven't met (Skype doesn't count) but one of your friends knows him and goes to school with him? he messaged me on twitter and he goes to the same school my dad went to and he's really nice and cute I just don't want my friends to judge me

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:21:48 -0400

It’s not necessarily “bad,” you just have to take the same precautions you would if you were meeting anyone else for the first time! If you have on record (like from your friend who knows him) that he’s a good guy, then go for it! It’s not like you picked him up off the street! But still, you don’t really know him so of course you still have to be a bit cautious. Don’t worry about what your friends think, though… I mean, my boyfriend and I barely talked the night we met, but we exchanged numbers and started talking afterwards. There’s no harm in meeting new people :)

Baffled and Blonde~

Hey! So I'm seeing this guy who I do like and I thought it would help me get over this other guy who I REALLY like and have done since the very first time we spoke! My gut tells me to go with the guy I've always liked however although we get on and I think he may like me, he's never actually asked me out, so I don't know what to do? :(

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:18:36 -0400

Just b/c he’s never asked you out doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you! Try getting to know him better - it’s okay for you to make the first move. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he doesn’t know how to approach you, the possibilities are endless! Try hanging out with him or talking to him more…if you really like him, go for it!

Baffled and Blonde~

My bf and I have been going out for over a year and I just found out that he still has feelings for his ex. They dated about 2/3years ago. I really want to be with him but idk if it is the right thing to do. She helped him when one of his parents died and I think maybe thats the reason that he still has those feelings cause that was a big part of his life. He didnt tell me but I found out and when I confronted him he told me he doesnt love her and he doesnt like her like her, he just likes her.

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:17:34 -0400

I believe it’s impossible to completely 100% “get over” someone you once had strong feelings for (unless they totally ruined your life or something). That being said, just b/c he has strong feelings for her doesn’t mean he’s in love with her or anything. I’m sure there are guy friends you love but don’t love like a boyfriend. Unless he starts to shy away from you and towards her, there’s no reason to worry - both of you have different roles in his life, and as long as you and him trust each other and are honest about your feelings for each other, you’ll be fine :)

Baffled and Blonde~

Hi :) so this guy has been showing some signs of liking me...I think and because of that I've started liking him, it started by him tapping my shoulder and he did this twice but he kept walking after he did this, and then he said hi to me but like in the weird I like u kinda way and I just feel like he try's to get my attention but I hope it's not in my mind, b4 this we were never really friends but we knew each other cuz its a small school, how can I know if he likes me? What do u think?

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:15:06 -0400

Try hanging out with him more, or talking to him more - it should give you a better idea of how he acts around you vs. how he acts around other people. Go from there :)

Baffled and Blonde~

How do i tell my Boy Bestfriend i like him?

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:14:12 -0400

Just tell him! If he likes you back, then you’re set! If he doesn’t, your friendship will survive if you’re true friends :)

Baffled and Blonde~

please answer your asks quick, i really need you

Sun, 12 May 2013 20:12:50 -0400

I’m so sorry I haven’t been on tumblr in so long! I’m still swamped - hopefully after this wednesday everything will calm down and I’ll have more time to answer everything. I wish I could spend hours giving advice, but unfortunately I have to prioritize homework -__- I’ll do my best! If it’s really super important and urgent, you can ask me again or email it to baffledandblonde@gmail.com.

Baffled and Blonde~

Update

Sun, 21 Apr 2013 20:52:16 -0400

I’m really really really (x infinity) sorry that I’ve been so flaky in responding lately……. I’ve been running from state to state, trying to figure out my future (in terms of college). I have absolutely zero time right now, but I’m going to try and sort out all your questions in the next week or so. I love how many questions I get, and I love giving advice…. but sometimes I can’t find the time to give thought-out answers.

Again, I’m very sorry! I’ll get to your questions as soon as I can!

(Busy,) Baffled and Blonde~

He Makes Me Smile - A Text Conversation

Sat, 20 Apr 2013 19:43:00 -0400

Him: So I kinda have feelings for this girl and I was wondering if you could help me out…. so she’s this girl who lives in [my town] and she’s blonde and short. But the okay kind of short. Like it goes with my height so it works. But she’s absolutely beautiful. Like no one you’ve ever seen before. She has an adorable laugh and a really pretty smile. She’s into theatre but I don’t know too much about that. We have like so much in common and she makes me really nervous whenever I’m around her like idk I just feel like she’s way too good for me. I’ve been trying to figure out what I should do…. like I wanna ask her out on a date but idk how!! I also don’t know what to do on this date…. can you help me….?

Me: I think you should stick with cats… girls have cooties.

Him: Lol you think so? Alright maybe I’ll give it a little time.. have her warm up to me ya know? …But on the other hand, I’m kinda in love with you…. like I know that’s crazy but I really want to be with you and I’ll never treat you wrong. You’ll be treated with nothing but respect. So we’re gonna go on a date tomorrow okay?

Me: I guess that’s okay…..;)

Me: I love you :)))

It's Funny How Things Work Out Sometimes

Wed, 17 Apr 2013 20:22:41 -0400

Ready for a curveball?????????? Ok…. here goes…..

EXHOOKUPBOY.

A lot of you are probably really confused right now… for those of you who haven’t kept up with my blog since its inception, I’ll attempt to explain who exactly I’m talking about.

Exhookupboy. How to explain him. Hmm. Well. He’s quite attractive; think, Derek Zoolander meets actual, real, male model (in a good way!) - he’s on the short side, but muscular and tan, with short dark hair and a mischievous smile. He’s a class clown - a total goofball who everyone hates until they get to know him. Really crude sense of humor (think: teenage boy), but really down-to-earth one-on-one or in small groups. We used to hook up. It lasted about a month. All the drama that caused was actually one of the reasons I started this blog in the first place - I needed to vent (I didn’t think it’d become an advice blog back then). I hadn’t talked to him since last November (as in, November 2011)….. until like last week.

He does tech for our drama club - I have no clue why, he’s an amazing actor. Seriously talented! That’s kind of how we started, last year in drama club, when we were working on a show together (he was in that one, though). Anyway, after I ended things (it got really messy, for those of you who don’t know) we didn’t talk. Ever. We never acknowledged each other. We trashed each other anonymously, but I’d moved on to bigger and better things (like shyboy… *sigh* shyboy.. ;) ) and he became bitter and resentful. We ignored each other for sport. Until this year……….. during the spring musical, we started talking again! It was weird… just small acknowledgements at first in group conversations, but then as time went on we became *shall I dare?????* ….friends…? I’m not sure if I can even call it that. Now that the show’s over, I have no clue if we’re ever going to talk again.

But I know one thing.

I forgot how hot he is.

Also, he’s a really good kisser.

;)

Forever hiding my inner slut,

Baffled and Blonde~

So there is guy at my school that I have a big crush on. He calls me his "girlfriend" and yesterday left a note in my locker with a riddle type thing trying to find out who's # it was. Do you think he could like me or is he just teasing me like he knows I like him? This kind of stuff doesn't happen to me very often so I just don't know how to act.

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:18:00 -0400

Honestly, it could be either one - but go with your gut! If you think he’s being honest and real about it, then flirt back! Text him! But if you think it’s a bit shady… flirt all you want, but don’t fall for a guy who would tease a girl like that.

Baffled and Blonde~

so i'm really close with this boy and last year he told me he loved me but recently he's stopped talking to me. Also there are so many things that he has done to piss me off (like talking to three of my friends; basically using all of us), but i don't want to have an argument with him but i need to tell him how i feel because i used to really like him but now i'm not so sure:/ please help!

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:17:00 -0400

If he’s been using you and such, you need to be strong and honest with him! Let him know that he can’t treat you like that, and if your feelings have changed let him know why. He can’t get away with leading you on or treating you wrong, and he needs to understand that!

Baffled and Blonde~

i feel like recently my boyfriend and i have been arguing a lot, and i'm not even sure why. i can't tell if he's actually being rude or demanding in situations or i'm just perceiving it as that. i had a doctors appt to get bc the other day and idk, it seemed like a pretty big deal and i told him the day before and he didn't remember at all. i felt really upset he forgot, but maybe he just couldn't tell how nervous i was? idk if i'm acting crazy ahh so confused

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:15:00 -0400

Try talking to him about it - tell him honestly how you feel! A relationship can only work out if you’re both totally open with each other. Once you let him know how you feel and he understands, you two can work it out and ultimately come out stronger in the end.

Baffled and Blonde~

I have a huge crush on this boy on my sisters boyfriend brandons baseball team and he likes me back and Brandon is inviting him to hang out with us Friday which is tomorrow I'm really nervous because he is way put of my league and i'm very shy what should I do what if I freeze up when he talks to me or what If I saw something wrong!!! Please help:(

Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:11:00 -0400

If he likes you, he’s not out of your league! Since you both have feelings for each other, this puts you on the same level - think of him as your equal, or as your underling. Don’t be nervous… just go with your instincts and act as you would around any guy! It’s not necessary to freeze up or anything, since you already know he likes you! Good luck, and have fun!

Baffled and Blonde~

That Time I Thought I Was Pregnant

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 22:53:00 -0400

Probably one of the most stressful weeks of my life……..!!

I always thought I’d wait until I was on birth control to have sex……… then again I also vowed I’d never smoke. As you know (if you keep up with my blog), I lost my V card a few months ago to talldarkhandsome, and since then my sex life has been far from boring (not like my sex life was ever boring, it’d just never involved actual sex).

Even though I’m not on the pill or anything (although I’m hoping to change that soon!) we’re always safe. We always check the condom to see if it broke (tip: fill it with water when you’re done and see if it leaks!) and it never has. However… I had some suspicions last time we had sex that it hadn’t gone as smoothly as we’d hoped. Somehow some got out, and I’m not quite sure where it ended up (who can blame me…it’s not like I was paying attention to that!). I didn’t think much of it (if I had, I’d have taken Plan B or something) until I missed my period at the beginning of this week.

My school musical opened tonight, so the last few weeks have been super intense in terms of rehearsal. We’ve been having 7+ hour practices every day, my sleep schedule has been shit, and my eating habits have gone steadily downhill. So naturally, I haven’t been feeling well for the past week or so. But it was really bad the other day; I woke up throwing up and fainting, with awful cramps and a migraine. I assumed it was my period - this happens sometimes - but it never came. So I got kind of nervous…….. I honestly had nobody to talk to, since talldarkhandsome’s show opened tonight too and he had his own rehearsals.

BUT THANK GOD - my period came today. I was so unbelievably relieved……. and I’m seriously considering not having sex again until I’m on the pill (I just have to talk to my mom about it - ugh).

On a semi-related note…… I’ve been really upset lately with talldarkhandsome. Like, really upset. I haven’t seen him since our last sleepover (I think I blogged about that), and we’ve barely talked thanks to our long days and busy schedules. I text him when I can, and I’ve been extra sweet and kind (probably overcompensating a bit…) but he keeps getting more distant. It’s horribly horribly hypocritical of me to judge my relationship by texts…. but he’s never like this. We talked on the phone before, and he only gave one-word answers and kept getting super defensive. I want to know if something’s wrong, but he won’t tell me - he just got super quiet when I asked and said he’s fine. Also he has to kiss a few girls every day for his show… which normally I honestly don’t care about (since I’m an actress too, and I know it’s just for the show), but I’m starting to care…since he’s been slowly shying away from me. Maybe I’m just jealous that they all get to kiss him and I don’t.

I know I should be really happy right now - my life is going great - but all I want to do is cry.

FUCKING HORMONES.

Baffled and Blonde~

Ok so i like this guy at my school and whenever he sees me he smiles. We flirt occasionally. But I don't think he really gets it. I want to be friends with him and somehow let him know I'm interested without actually saying that. HELP?

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 12:01:00 -0400

If you want to be friends with him…… be friends with him! It’s as simple as that. Start getting to know him, and as your friendship progresses you can start dropping hints. It might take some time, but honestly that’s the best way (at least in my opinion) to build a relationship.

Good luck!

Baffled and Blonde~

Ok so, me and the guys dated for 6 months. He cheated on me twice. The second time I broke up with him but hen we got back together a few days later(dumb I know) And now ita been about 2 months since we broke up for good. All ofmy friends get mad at me when i talk about him and don't understand why I'm not over him. But I really think he's my first love. I lost my virginity to him. I cry over him almost every night. I hate it. Any advice? Please help. I feel like I'm getting depressed over him:/

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 11:59:00 -0400

Honestly, that sucks. Some guys don’t deserve good girlfriends, and this guy sounds like he definitely doesn’t deserve you. It sounds like he’s taking you for granted - he knows how much you like him, and he’s taking advantage of that by dragging you along. As hard as it might be, I think it’s time to let him go. Cheaters don’t usually change, as harsh as that might sound (at least in my experience). Try finding somebody new - sometimes it takes a new guy (not just a rebound) to remind us that there are better guys out there. Try going out and meeting new people - who knows, maybe you’ll find a new love! Good luck, keep your head up girl! You’re amazing and you deserve way better than a cheater!

Baffled and Blonde~

Okay so theres this boy in my math class and he is always winking at me and staring at me and trying to get close to talk, I know for a fact that he does not flirt with anyone else. My friend asked him if he liked me and he said no. I thought that maybe he said no because she asked him when he was around a big group of guy friends. Advice? I really like this guy.

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 11:56:00 -0400

It’s possible he does like you! Try getting to know him a bit better - hang out with him either in groups or one-on-one, and you’ll get a better idea of how he feels. Start with getting his number or chatting him on facebook… then (quickly) work to hanging out/talking in person. Once you’re there, you’ll get to know each other and sparks will fly from there!

Baffled and Blonde~

please ignore my other question i don't like him anymore

Thu, 11 Apr 2013 11:54:26 -0400

All the questions I have are on anon, so I’m not sure which one it is. I’ll just answer it anyway and you can just disregard it :P

Baffled and Blonde~